What’s the Difference Between Executive Coaching and Life Coaching for Executives?

Apr 25 2012

“I keep gaining weight, because I have no time to work out,” says my friend who also happens to be an Executive.  He was complaining again about his job and the consistent overwhelm and the impact on his health and family.

Now, this is a guy who has had a coach for years and so I asked him: “What does your coach tell you?”

He said that he was coached to find time during lunch to work out. But that wasn’t working so well because people frequently booked meetings for him at lunch.

So, I asked “When you talk to those people about your stress level and the need to have lunch times available for you, what do they say?”

He laughed as if I had just asked him a trick question.  ”You don’t understand, that is not how it goes around here.”

He was beginning to sound like so many of my clients, who put up with overwhelm day-in and day-out.

Many of them are consistently overbooked and can’t make it to all the meetings they are supposed to be at.  They are completely burned-out and/or unhappy and their health and relationships are suffering.

Given the severity of the problem, it is astonishing to see how little time and few conversations people dedicate to changing the problem of overwhelm in their jobs.  It is as if there was a code of honor that states: Never push back or complain of overwhelm.

Some people get so caught up in trying to win the “un-winnable” game that they don’t even realize that the conversation about overwhelm is either missing completely or they are having it very ineffectively.  For example, complainingg about overwhelm without offering a solution or at least making a specific request from the “right” person, would be an unproductive conversation.  (You can learn more about that by purchasing our book “Who Will Do What by When? ” on our website)

But I digress, here ‘s the difference between Executive Coaching and Life Coaching for Executives.   Executive coaching is role specific.  In other words, if the company pays for the coaching, the coach will often coach the person in his/her role of Executive.  The focus would be primarily about his performance in that role.  Hence, the idea that my friend could work out at lunch!  It seems like a good “operational solution,” but it really doesn’t get to the core of the problem.

The real cause of his unhappiness might be more about his values and who he is as a person.  He is an independent guy who doesn’t like other people to tell him what to do or control his time.  He might be in a role that is no longer aligned with his true nature.   So, he could benefit from Life Coaching, i.e. a conversation, that is not limited to his role, but explores his values and what truly gives him fulfillment, joy and energy in life.

I spoke to a lawyer the other day who moved from one job “in law” to another, each time saying: “It’s better, but I am not happy.”  He needs life coaching, not executive coaching.  He knows how to be a “law” Executive… but it only pleases his dad – not him.  He needs life coaching!

Does that mean that Executive Coaches only deal with operational issues and Life Coaches only work with people on their lives?  No!

But coaches and clients have to be aware of the inherent dilemma when it comes to coaching a person in his or her role.  It’s not always what serves best.   And coaches have to be willing to engage clients into life conversations that might take them out of their roles.

So don’t just go looking for Executive Coaches or Life Coaches.  Best advice I can give is to look for an experienced coach who can switch back and forth between Life and Executive Coaching.

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Attracting Commitment

Apr 20 2012

I took a basic Online Marketing workshop the other day (led by Louanne Walters) and had a wonderful insight.

As Louanne was explaining the difference between inbound and outbound marketing, I suddenly realized that she and I are basically doing the same thing in the marketplace.  We are offering “transformation” to savvy business people whose current approach isn’t working for them.  Her medium is social marketing, mine commitment management.  Let me explain.

Traditional outbound marketing consists of commercials, news paper ads, postcard campaigns, etc. – meaning that we are communicating out in order to get people to buy our products and services – hence the term “outbound.”

Of course, we all know by now, that this trend has completely shifted and the goal has become to attract people to us, or “like” us as we would say in Facebook terms.

The reason we are writing blogs, conduct webinars, tele-seminars, give away ebooks and do whatever else is to engage people.  It’s about attracting them to want more, rather than inundating them with stuff they didn’t ask for.   To some this shift is obvious, others are still blind to it.  In their blindness they say, “Why is my Marketing not working?”

What does that have to do with Commitment Management?

Well, just like the marketer needs to transform him or herself to communicate in such a way that it attracts interest, managers need to transform to become the kind of person other people want to make commitments to.

Traditional managers have a practice of telling people what to do and when to do it and if people don’t perform, they tend to pull rank on them.  Sometimes it works, but often it doesn’t.  It depends on how compliant people are.

But it rarely produces the kind of commitment that has people jump through hoops to get the job done.

And that’s what it is all about – Attracting Meaningful Commitment – so that the manager can manage it.   The commitment that is, not the person!

So, the Art of Commitment Management is about attracting commitment to us rather than assigning responsibility to others.  That’s the big paradigm shift that has already occurred, but is not obvious to many managers out there.  They are still wondering, “Why aren’t THEY performing?”

As is so often the case, what hurts us is not what we do, but what we are blind to.

Thanks to Louanne for opening my eyes further to seeing the underlying patterns of marketing.  Just when I thought I had Facebook figured out….

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How to Get Things Done by Others

Apr 13 2012

If you’re like me you’re wrapping things up for the week.  Did you hit your targets for the week?

Did you have targets for the week, or were you just on the to-do list treadmill?
One nice tip is to look at your projects and ask two questions:
1. What is the desired outcome?  That is, when this is done what will it look like?
2. What is the next action step?  If you were to work on this project now, what is the FIRST thing you would do right now?
A nice Friday wrap up is at least make a list of specific, small next action steps.
If you want to go beyond “tips” — I have two spots left in my upcoming Rigorous Accountability Training ….

Ever wish your direct reports were more accountable?

Would you like to know how to make that happen?

Based on our Amazon best-selling business fable “Who Will Do What by When? How to Enhance Performance, Accountability and Trust with Integrity,” I periodically offer a six-week Accountability Training that will be held Fridays from 12pm-1pm EST for six weeks on a conference line.

This is a program for experienced managers and leaders who want to learn how to enhance engagement, commitment and accountability on their teams.

You will learn how to:

·         Reengage people who have become complacent

·         Manage individual and team commitments instead of micro-managing people

·         Get things done under the most stressful circumstances

·         Hold effective action meetings and meaningful minutes

·         Create a culture of trust, where people make requests, promises and complain effectively

·         Identify and manage unproductive emotions

·         Make yourself more accountable and become a more effective leader

The program consists of 4 group calls and 2 individual, personal coaching calls.  Call me if you would like to discuss your interest.

Birgit Zacher Hanson at 813-963-6224 ; BZH@HeadsUpPerformance.com

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Check Out What Meetings and Watching TV have in Common

Jul 18 2011

When you watch TV, you don’t just watch one kind of show I imagine.

I, for example, watch the news, movies, documentaries and some shows like American Idol.

When I sit down in front of the TV I don’t always eat popcorn either.

I only do that when I watch a movie from beginning to end.  Why?  Because I know it will be a few hours and I enjoy kicking back with my popcorn.

What does this have to do with meetings?  Well, we have all kinds of meetings as well – just like TV shows.  Some are short, some are long, some focus on the crisis in the moment, and others continue over years.

The key to meetings is to know what kind of meeting to have when.

For example, you don’t want people to get too comfy and eat popcorn when you need them to get a quick update and be in action.

So call a 5 minute stand-up meeting in the hallway instead of an hour-long meeting in the conference room where people bring their pillows and coffee.

If you are managing a project, ask for updates on the specific action items people have promised and make it quick.  Don’t go around the table and ask everyone a general question like “What are you working on?” – Seriously? Does it matter?

To have more effective meetings, you must focus on what matters most and pick a format that will deliver results.  Not every TV show takes 2 hours!

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WEBINAR / COACHING – Accountability: Creating a Winnable Game (7/27)

Jul 18 2011

To sign up for this coaching webinar where Birgit will take calls and answer questions about accountability and team-building, click here

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TV interview with Birgit on Malcolm Outloud

Jun 30 2011

To watch Birgit’s leadership news on interview  hosted by Angye Fox click here

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TV Interview on Malcolm Outloud

Jun 29 2011

To view Birgit and Tom’s interview on the book Who Will Do What by When? on Malcolm Outloud, click here

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Get Projects Done with Half the Effort and Hassle – Knowing What to Say & How to Say It

Jun 28 2011

To listen to this recorded webinar for project managers, where we discussed the secrets highly effective managers have discovered, click here.

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Negative Images Boost Unrelated Images

May 18 2011

An article on Harvard Business Review reads as follows:

“People who viewed an image of a dead cat (or something equally negative) after recalling a newly learned Swahili word were better at later remembering the word than people who viewed a neutral image, say Bridgid Finn and Henry L. Roediger III of Washington University. The viewers of negative images remembered 57% of what they had previously recalled, compared with 44% for people who saw neutral pictures. An emotionally arousing event may enhance “reconsolidation” of memory because the brain’s emotional centers have close connections with the reconsolidation region, the researchers say.”

That is interesting!  Perhaps it teaches us a lesson that it is not always about making people “feel good.”  Apparently a negative emotion can be beneficial when it comes to recall.

But let’s not abuse that to justify a lack of emotional intelligence, ok?

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Interesting Findings on Harvard Business Review

May 18 2011

Negative Images Boost Unrelated Memories
People who viewed an image of a dead cat (or something equally negative) after recalling a newly learned Swahili word were better at later remembering the word than people who viewed a neutral image, say Bridgid Finn and Henry L. Roediger III of Washington University. The viewers of negative images remembered 57% of what they had previously recalled, compared with 44% for people who saw neutral pictures. An emotionally arousing event may enhance “reconsolidation” of memory because the brain’s emotional centers have close connections with the reconsolidation region, the researchers say.

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